Dealing with a break-up is never easy. If you thought the process of breaking-up was the hard part, let us tell you, what comes after it is even harder. Although, you have taken different paths, there are so many memories lingering in your mind that will make you want to get back to your estranged love. Staying apart from someone you love and hate at the same time is the hardest thing and hence we provide you with 10 easy ways to survive this ordeal.
1. Get Over The Denial Mode
It is natural to be in a state of disbelief after a break-up and normal to mourn over your failed relationship for a while; but don’t overdo it. Phase out gradually and get past the denial mode. Embrace the feelings. Accept it with grace and take charge of the situation.
2. Maintain Distance
It could be tempting to remain friends after a break-up but this may not be the best idea. Remaining friends after a break-up could ignite the spark again and lure you to give your relationship another chance, meanwhile forgetting the primary reason of the break-up. Cutting ties will allow you to discern the situation with clarity.
3. Distract Yourself
Keep yourself busy. Try and enroll for a class or pursue a hobby that you’re passionate about but could never find the time for. Keeping your mind off the break-up is the best way to tackle your emotions. Do something you could never do while dating and this might bolster your decision to start afresh.
4. Destroy All Physical Memories. Start Fresh!
Get rid of all the things that remind you of your ex. Photos, hand written letters, email exchanges, chats and gifts. This material is only going to remind you of the good times you shared and make you forget why you broke up in the first place. There is a high possibility of you getting back with your ex if you try and cling on to these memories.
Meet new people; expand your social circle which might not have been a possibility while dating your jealous shadow. Spend a lot of time in the company of people you love and lost time chilling with. Avoid staying alone for some time. If possible, avoid hanging out with friends who are common to you and your ex.
6. Pamper yourself
A break-up does not mean that you have to deprive yourself from all the love. Go ahead; treat yourself with some love and indulgence. Book a spa session with yourself, splurge in some retail therapy and do all things that will make you feel radiant again. Keep the ‘feel good factor’ at check.
7. Make A List Of All The Annoying Things About Him/ Her
If you are finding it hard to get over your ex, you could make a list of all things about them that put you off. It could be constant nagging, loud snoring or farting in public. Just imagine the fact that you will not have to deal with these annoying little things anymore.
8. Vent Out Your Frustration
Do not harbor the pensive feelings. Vent out your sorrow and frustration. Talk to a friend. Pen down your feelings or compose a song out of it. Do something to get the bitterness out of your system. Never let the break-up get the better of you.
9. Venture Out
Plan a solo trip to get a hold of yourself. If you are hesitant about venturing alone, plan with your buddies. It will help you take your mind and heart off your ex and let you recuperate faster.
10. Don’t Be Hard On Yourself
The last thing you should be doing is blaming yourself for the break-up. There is no need to be guilty-struck about the break-up. If you have broken-up, both, you and your ex are equally responsible for it. So, let go and be guilt-free. The faster you do this, the better you will feel.